In a perfect world no would tell us NO, right? We would all get the dream job we wanted, accepted to the college we wanted, get the guy or girl we wanted (lol). But we don't live in a perfect world, we live in the real one so that means we have all dealt with our fair share of disappointment after being rejected, or being told no. But what if the NO we get, is more valuable than the YES that we want?
When we hear the word no what happens? Disappointment and sadness sets in, with anger and frustration usually not far behind. Those feelings are all normal, especially when you feel like what it was you were pushing for was perfect for you. When you feel like you put it in the work and it was your time, but it wasn't. But what if you go that NO for a reason? A greater reason beyond your control, a reason that you probably don't understand. While I truly believe that we are all in control of our own actions and our destinies, I also believe that everything happens for reason. What that reason is, we usually aren't meant to know until after it has happened to us. This has happened to me more than once.
NO number 1) The first person I loved decided NO, he didn't love me back. Of course heart break, disappointment, and ugly crying followed...Months later I started dating my now husband with whom I have 2 beautiful boys with. I am also still friends with my ex. I learned that no matter how much you love someone you cannot make them feel they same way you do. I also learned that you can love people in different ways.
NO number 2) When I first started my Personal Assistant business I wanted to pass out my business cards in a really nice town center where a lot businessmen and businesswomen went for lunch. The security guards told me no I couldn't pass my cards out there. Something about some soliciting BS (haha). Frustration along with some curse words followed. After that I went to a grocery store down street and put my business cards on a bunch of car door windows...Before I could pull out of the parking lot someone had called to inquire about my services. I learned that I my target market could really be anywhere.
NO number 3) When the pandemic hit in 2020, the (in person) Personal Assistant business I had been doing for the past 7 years came to a hault, as did every other business. After some a few months of depression, running out of unemployment, and not being able to get any new clients, I decided to start applying for regular jobs again to help contribute to to our income. It would mean going back to working an 8-5 again for someone else after working for myself for a while, but we needed the money and I was ready to do whatever I needed to to help my family. I had just finished 3 of the 4 stages of an interview process for a work from home job with great pay, great benefits, doing exactly was I was doing before. If I had to get another job working for someone else, this was the one I wanted! I was actually beginning to get excited about it. The 4th stage was a call with the CEO. That is where I knew I could really shine and seal the deal. Then it came, the NO. The "we are sorry but NO you won't be moving to the next phase of the the interview process". All the disafuckingpointment hit. Depression here I come again...But shortly after I sucked it up and got back to work trying to find a way to bring in new clients. I ended up finding a website where I could market my personal assistant services virtually. It was there that I found my first virtual client whom I am have been working with for the past 2 years now. I have been working primarily virtual ever since. I learned that I probably wasn't working as hard as I thought I was to find new clients. I learned that I can't create the future while being stuck in the past.
Are you seeing the trend yet????
When the doors you knock on don't open, don't try and break them down, find another door. Find the door that was meant for you, cause there is one. Trust that the NO you got was more valuable than the YES you wanted.
LiveDriven
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